Monday, December 6, 2010

Most of my Family Studies Schema (and my final rant!)

 I remember a teacher once told me that a schema was like a mind map, filled with ideas that sometimes accommodate each other, or assimilate. In my attempts to be creative, I thought it would be perfect to end this blog by showing you my knowledge of the entire course. But, unfortunately, the program that I am using can only hold so many bubbles (The ideas that connect) and because of this, I was only able to depict 75% or more of my schema. I apologize for the frustrating limits of technology (this thing took me days!), but please follow the directions to get to my schema. It very large, just a cautious warning, this schema is so big it might slow your computer a bit!
1. Please go to the following website: http://www.bubbl.us/ 
2. The username is klooste, and my password is th990987 (lower case, no caps) enter this in, then push enter.
3 Once this is done, it will bring you to a screen, with a bubble shape that says start here. If you look over to the right, you will see two saved files, new project, and family studies.
4. Please click on family studies, and you will see my waters of knowledge!
5. In the top left corner, below bubblus you will see a few navigation bars that might be helpful. The - sign zooms out, and the + zooms in (you may have to zoom out, because [not to brag] this things huge!) Also, you can scroll around in my bubblus by simply clicking and dragging, or by using the mouse-wheel.
If you have any issues finding/viewing this, please email me at matt_kloosterman@hotmail.com.

 Before I entered this course, my mind was as narrow as a straw. But now I feel that my knowledge has become enriched and widened into a deep ocean. To be honest, I feel more respect towards women. Even though we only generally touched on the waves of feminism, I feel that there are many connotations I can make to the waves. For example, Victor Malarek is a male voice who is taking a second wave feminism stance. This surprised me, and when I think about it, women are still being degraded inside our school halls. Its pretty easy to say that several women spend time trying to appeal to the crowd of boys, because us as men have put these pressures on women. But, I always say when you point the finger at someone else, your pointing three at yourself. So in reality, women could choose to stand up against this notion of make up. I even see it in my girl friend, we've been dating now for two years, and she still feels obligated to put make up on her face, when in reality she knows in my eyes that she's beautiful.  As you can see, I think this class has made become more like Keenen Anderton (hahaha), because he takes such a philosophical critical theoretical point of view on things. We have studied topics that I was completely naive too, like Habermas' paradigms and how he's missing a theological point of view, or that the co-habitors are less likely to have a successful life long marriage  Like my bubbl attempts to convey, I have really learned an enormous amount in this class.
In the public sphere, this course has certainly doubled my confidence when it comes to writing. This blog is an ingenious idea, because I can easily sit down and freely type their thoughts, or opinions without feeling the pressures of a test situation. It allows for creativity that is only limited by my imagination. Most importantly, I hope I can adopt many of your teaching qualities when I have finally settled into my career as an educator. Your willingness, support, and confidence in all your students is seen by many. It is not only this course that I will take in my arsenal, but your abilities to teach thoroughly, and considerably well will mirrored by me in the future.  I hope you understand that you are a great professor. Consider yourself a role model!
It has been a pleasure being your student,
thank you for everything.
Regards, Matt Kloosterman

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

The Education That Will Stick With me for the rest of my life

 Human sexuality, how does thee faintly recall? Was it in middle school? I think it was taught sometime in highschool, but when? Oh yes, I remember now. The first time a penis was flashed on the video screen the entire class giggled. I'm not sure if it was the size of the penis, or just the fact that it was in fact a penis.

  Honestly, I can't say I remember much from "Health class".  Health 9 existed, but how old was I then? 14? 15? was I sexually active? if you count a kiss on the cheek then yes? By that age, hell I was still thinkin that girls had cooties! Then I think there was some CALM class that I thought was an absolute joke. I vaguely remember talking about a vagina in that class, but I think it was only for a day or two.

My notes state: Access to information about sex is NOT widely available. They also say that sexual education curriculum is not unified with an sort of standards. My question is then why is Health a course then? Why is CALM a class?

The statistics we learned today reflect upon this lack of education we have access to about sexual intercourse. I mean its no wonder 25% of CANADIAN women have HIV or AIDS. The problem is completely obvious, in schools they stop teaching Health once a student reaches 17 if that, depending if the student takes CALM in grade 10 or 11. With that said though, CALM focuses more on writing a cheque, or choosing good roommates than sexual intercourse. Instead, its required that students have English 30, where they analyze the shit (excuse language) out of a poem and try to regurgitate the meaning from it. Where is the line drawn? Where does school and reality finally meet up? I mean it sure is nice to able to take the derivative of a function from integrated calculus, but where is one going to apply this knowledge in the real world? If they become an Engineer, possibly, but what about the stuff that matters, the ultimate intimacy between a couple: sexual intercourse.
 
Whats even more frustrating for me personally is to see that several catholic schools require that a student takes religion 30. So what this tells me is that the Alberta curriculum will teach students about a higher being (that is completely subjective to opinions and beliefs) rather than health, which is influencing every single person daily. Doesn't this seem a bit off? In my opinion, they should make sexual education a 30 level course, that is required upon graduation. I mean, why not? English, which is again extremely subjective is required, why not the basic fundamentals of life. These fundamentals seem like common sense, but in reality, the statistics prove that young people are not being overly cautious when it comes to sexual intercourse.

This is not my way of sucking up, but as a student, I have learned more about the ideas, problems, and theories that surround the notion of sex in Family Studies. With this said, I strongly believe that Family Studies should be widely available to all students, and possibly required in grade 12. This class has educated me thoroughly about many of the ideas that surround life. This is knowledge that I will apply to the real world, knowledge that will come in handy in the future. Even though it is only a general overview of such an enormous topic, I have still become aware of many important topics, that should have been taught to me much sooner in my eyes.
Thanks for hearing me out.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Choices that we make

 Ironically I am a very strong believer in pro-life. I also want to address that what I say in this blog entry may offend some readers. Consider this a warning.

 It seems like human nature to avoid owning up to a mistake. It always seems like we blame our issues on anything else to make ourselves feel more comfortable emotionally. But in reality, it is our fault!. In my opinion, it takes a very strong and courageous human being to point the finger at themselves and accept the fault. I've heard that when you point your finger at someone else, you point four other fingers at yourself. I think this notion of owning up to the fault is completely overlooked in society. But how does this relate to being pregnant? , and moreover how does this all escalate to abortion?


The key word for this argument is choice. Yes, the guy chose to get drunk with his girl friend, and therefore the drunkenness escalated the problem to an unwanted pregnancy. "but its his fault" says the girl, "he took advantage of me, because I was drunk". Wrong! The individual chose to get drunk and failed to understand the problems that can arise from drunkenness, such  as drunk driving, unwanted pregnancy, fights, etc. Second, one should also be aware of their limits! The individual was obviously to drunk at this party to the point where being taken advantage of occured. Its not his fault, nor is it the alcohols, its your "choices fault" (if that makes sense). What I'm attempting to convey is that human beings make rational choices. Essentially we should weigh the pros and cons of becoming drunk (SOCIAL EXCHANGE THEORY!). yes it is fun being hammered, but to what extent? Should a guy be wasted to the point where he struggles to see and stand straight? I think not. But he chose to overdose on alcohol  and he will probably suffer in the morning

 "Pro choice" seems to contradict itself if I may take a critical theoretical approach to this blog entry. Basically, the choices that one makes lead to an unwanted pregnancy. Most of us would blame anything to make our pregnancy look like its faultless to us. The worst part is that because of the persons choice to become pregnant, the person is now debating if they should kill a human life, and consider it a lesson learned? Absolutely not! this makes me extremely frustrated! The best way to learn, in my angry opinion is to have that damn child and put them up for adoption. Who the hell gives you the right to end a life? Sure its your body, but you made the necessary choices to get pregnant, Whether it was unprotected sex or not, you still CHOSE to have sex. And when you have that child, I want you to look into their eyes and tell me if you could have aborted them? Because months ago that child was a little unwanted egg in your Fallopian tube. You could have ended the life of a revolutionary child who could have stopped world hunger. No you learn by having the child, and seeing them interact with other children, having a life. Contributing to society as a human being. We only get one shot at life, and I sure wouldn't have wanted to be the child who never had the chance breath. That child, who died because of a selfish mother.
Here is my logical advice (I am a man of mathmatics and logic!)
Allow me to present some "Klooster" advice: 

My equation is simple: Don't have sex, don't get pregnant. Have sex: understand the consequences (and pleasures) that surround the notion of sexual intercourse. If you cannot do this, then you are obviously not ready to have sex, because in the end another life could be at stake.

Second, weigh your choices, if you choose to get drunk, than know your limits. Don't surround yourself with a bunch of bozo guys who simply want a lay. Have a designated driver, its all common sense really. If you know you might be having drunken sex, then for god sakes bring some condoms! Think before you drink.

Monday, November 15, 2010

On Rob's Birthday...

 Hey its me, I'm sorry Mr Blog, I havn't written to you in awhile. Today, I want to go through what we as a class went over on November 10, 2010, or known as Rob's birthday, as illustrated in my notes.

As a class we took a critical theoretical approach to why guys call other guys a bitch. Essentially, we learned that this notion alludes to homosexual violence, which seems to be demeaning to homosexual men. A student of Freud was also revealed, belief it or not. This student known as Lacon, was a follower and opposer to his teacher, Freud. Lacon strongly believed that we do not speak language, language on the other hand, speaks us. I think is an intriguing idea that Lacon brings foreward, which again seems to come from the Critical Theoretical Paradigm. Lacon seems to be giving life like traits to the notion of language, which in my opinion seems convincing because without communication, where would the human race be? Still in a cave bashing rocks over our heads. Is it fair to say that language could also be filed under one of our basic needs as human beings, next to food, water and clothing? Don't we as human beings need to communicate in order to have a healthy and stable well being?  I think Lacon is trying to reveal the importance of language which is overlooked by several people, and without communication, the human race would stagger and struggle to survive.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Study Blog (Noteless)--> please ignore any spelling errors!

 I feel that my first study blog went quite well.  With that said, I now introduce study blog number two! The rules are simple, I will not be looking at my notes, which will show how much I know right now. Anything I don't understand, or forget to write will be reviewed before the examination, which is tomorrow (eeek)!


 Starting with the films we watched in class...
1. Everything you wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask.
 - This film depicted models, who were showing excess amounts of skin (bums and cleavage) The film focuses on how women are being degraded through sexual videos and such. The video comes from the second wave of feminism. 

2. Myta Python: The British way of learning about sexual education.
- The film portrays a teacher who brings in his wife and has sex with her in front of the class in order to teach.

3. Romeo and Juliet (Bass Romon)
  -This film depicts the notion of crossed star lovers. It was made in 1996 with Leonardo DiCaprio. 


 4. Brokeback mountain.
- Shot in Alberta, two cowboys struggle with their gay love towards each other. Film was shot by Anglee Lee!!! (probably very important!) 

So there you have it, the films we have watched since the last exam. Other films also included in this course are, the Vagina monologues, Private Dicks: Men exposed.  So now I'm going to get into the beef of the course (the content). Same rules apply, my notebook will remain shut. Well here we go, wish me luck!
 

  Attraction

The notion of attraction is divided into three categories.
1.Beauty
- physical traits of someone. Most of the time people who are sexy know it. It is also interesting to note that men in particular prefer beautiful women.
2. Non-physical traits 
This category entails respecting and liking the person for who they are. 
3. Long- Term (evolutionary slanted) 
Anytime you read or hear anything about evolution you must think of David Buss! 
  men who were stronger were preferred by women, because the man could provide more food with his strength. Women were considered to be caring, which is why they stayed at home and took care of the kids. In this category, Propinquity arises (Propinquity= Finding someone within the same town or school)  

Biological Perspectives 
This particualr topic is divided into two sub tops:
1. Evolutionary Perspective (David Buss)
- Men who were stronger could provide better, women were caring.

2. Prenatal brain organization 
 -Gender behaviors arise once birth has occurred

  Psychological 
 Divided into four categories.

1.Psychoanalytical
- Our best friend comes rolling back, Dr: Freud. He believes that the mother is an Erotic impulse, and therefore, a man and baby boy must compete for mothers love.
2. Social Cognitive 
 -Albert Bendera: Child learns through modeling, ex) boy models dad, daughter models mother.
3.Cognitive Developmental 
-Lawerance Coalberg: Child learns by socially interacting with their environment. Gender is seen as perminate
4. Gender Schema theory 
-child learns their role as a gender. They learn their role in society.

(SAPE)--> GREEK LOVE TERMS
Storge: non-sexual love, example would be mother and child.

Agape: love as genorisity, or courtsey. Ex) donating


Philia: friendship love.


Eros: nearest to modern conception of love

Communication Skills
 1. Obsticles 
 -Difficult to talk about sex. False interpretations, like my partner can read my mind.
2. Getting started 
 A) Select time and place
  B) Ask permission to have conversation
C) Give permission.
3. Listening Effectively 
 -Really listen. Nod and make eye contact.

Masturbation 
- Lysistrata (play)--> Aristophes (made the play)
Masturbation acted as a therapy to certain couples (present). Some feel guilty from masturbation, if we think it then it will happen.

Sexual orientation 
 -Heterosexual orientation= Attractiveness to the opposite sex.
  -Homsexual Orientation= Individual whose attracted to the same sex.
- Heteroerotic= Person who has interests in the opposite sex.
-Homoerotic= Person who has interests in the same sex.

Berry Adams: Sex is one part, emotions are the other. Sexual orientation comes from ones feelings and emotion.

 Classification issues.
 The Kinsey Continuum
 
0----------1---------------2------------------3--------------4-------------------5-----------------6

0= Heterosexual 3=Bisexual 6=Homosexual



*The amount of people that are gay in this world are controversial!

A number of debates that surround sexual orientation:
1.Philosophical Debates
2. Ideological
3.Theological debates

Queer eye for a straight guy. Critical theoretical paradigm; cripple movement

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Its called Prezi...

 I was introduced to this interesting program called Prezi, which is almost like Microsoft PowerPoint, but more sophisticated. I outlined the key theorists that we have learned in family studies, Helen, Sternberg, and Haberma.

Direction: Use the arrow keys to view the next slide, or click auto play on the right hand side.
 Enjoy!

http://prezi.com/jkq2udqfkmuq/copy-of-human-sexuality/

Friday, October 22, 2010

Gender Typing (are there flavors as well?) Part 2

Lawrence Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development. (Links to cognitive development.)




 My recent blog entry elaborated on one of the four psychological aspects of Gender Typing. Here, in this second entry of part two, I will be finishing off the psychological aspects of gender typing.Albert Bendera brings the social cognitive view back onto the table. Cognitive is a term used to describe thinking and or ideas. According to the social cognitive theory, individual experience causes gender development. For example, a child may model their gender by learning through observation or through the behaviors of others. Essentially, the individual learns through their environment, in that a boy will observe his father to learn the attitudes and ideals that come enrolled with the male gender.


The cognitive development stage seems to be an addition to the the social cognitive stage of psychological gender typing. Basically the child learns certain ideals and concepts that come with the role of that particular gender. Also, the child can successfully distinguish between female and male. Moreover, and probably most importantly, the child begins to understand that their particular gender is permanent.

The last and final stage of psychological category of gender typing is the gender schema theory. Again, this particular stage seems to be a simple addition to the cognitive developmental stage. However, it is important to note that the gender schema theory is not concerned with the cognitive development approach, even though it shares similar characteristics. Through the gender schema theory, the child learns the expectations of a their gender in society. For example, they may learn that a man is supposed to do his role in supporting the family